One of the greatest mysteries of our world.
Love & Relationships is one of most talked and written about topic! You are constantly seeing articles such as:
-Buzzfeed love quizzes: Does he love you?
-Are You Not In Love, Only Slightly In Love, Or Very Deeply Love?
-Is he into you? Here are 10 ways to find out!
Please stop reading those as a basis to see where your relationship stands!
If you truly want to improve your relationships whether it be with a significant other, your parents, siblings or friends, THESE 5 BOOKS ARE A MUST READ!
1. The 5 Love Languages
Mr. Chapman has identified what he calls the five love languages: Words of Affirmation, Quality Time, Receiving Gifts, Acts of Service, and Physical Touch. Each and every single one of us wants to feel loved predominantly through 1 of the 5 love languages. Knowing how you and your partner or even your siblings and parents is a game changer. We often give love the way we want to receive it but that might not be the way the other person wants to receive love. This book is a game changer!
Each love language provides a unique way to better understand who you are and how you typically act within relationships. You don’t have to be in a relationship for these books to be helpful; in fact, if you read these books before you get into a relationship, you’re much likelier to attract the right person. Even more importantly, you’ll know ways to stay happy and connected once you find the person for you.
2. The Mastery of Love
In The Mastery of Love, Don Miguel examines the fear-based beliefs and assumptions that undermine love and lead to suffering and drama in our relationships. Using teachings from the three Toltec Masteries — Awareness, Transformation, and Love — as a foundation, he exposes the fallacies and misplaced expectations about love that permeate most relationships. It is definitely one of the best spiritual books I have ever read on love. It teaches you how you can never love another until you reach happiness and love within yourself. It teaches you to heal from your emotional wounds, trust and forgive yourself and others before we can have a successful relationship.
“The whole world can love you, but that love will not make you happy. What will make you happy is the love coming out of you. That is the love that will make a difference, not the love everyone has for you. Your love for everyone is your half ; the other half can be a tree, it can be a dog, it can be a cloud. You are one half ; the other half is what you perceive. You are the half as a dreamer, and the dream is the other half.” ~ Don Miguel Ruiz.
3. A Return to Love
Marianne’s observations and reflections on how our fears and our ego’s negative self-talk leads to self-sabotage in our relationships both with others and with ourselves are very insightful. Her spirituality revolves around religion but non-religious people such as myself can find inspiration in this book too. What makes this book valuable are the strategies on how to reframe our experiences so that we attract abundance, wealth, love and light instead of scarcity, fear and darkness and her profound observation on why we should all allow our inner light to shine bright.
“Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate. Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure. It is our light, not our darkness that most frightens us. We ask ourselves, Who am I to be brilliant, gorgeous, talented, fabulous? Your playing small does not serve the world. There is nothing enlightened about shrinking so that other people won’t feel insecure around you. We are all meant to shine, as children do. It’s not just in some of us; it’s in everyone. And as we let our own light shine, we unconsciously give other people permission to do the same. As we are liberated from our own fear, our presence automatically liberates others.”
4. The Power of Love by Osho
At times when the News seem not to present anything else than hate, violence, anger and division between people, this book by Osho is a great reminder that there is something we are all looking for – love. Osho says that between life and death the most important thing in our lives is love, but yet we do not give this important subject much attention in our education system. Societies and religions force us into models and thought-forms that are often in opposition to an organic model of love, which is instead institutionalized by marriage, religious affiliations, and nationalism. This results in love that is, for most people, a painful challenge in one form or another throughout life. In these modern days, where the focus shifts more and more to realizing one’s individual potential, this book helps us to direct our search for love by widening our view – showing us that love has many manifestations and is not limited to the ‘other’.
5. Men are from Mars, Women are from Venus
A classic! That’s because it is probably one of best book ever written about male-female relationships. In this guide to understanding the opposite sex, Dr. John Gray provides a practical and proven way for men and women to improve their communication by acknowledging the differences between their needs, desires, and behaviors.