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Top 10 Self Help Books that changed my life

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About 1.5 years ago, I started getting into the habit of reading. Over the course of this time, I have managed to read over 100 books and boy am I glad that I got into this habit.


I was going through a hard time and needed to get out of my negative/lazy/anxious/miserable self but I had no idea how to go about doing that. I had no one to talk to, get advice from and I sure as hell wasn’t going to therapy. All I knew is that I had to do something and I couldn’t sit around in bed all day mopping about my past. I was so turned off out by picking up these books, I remember hiding in the book store because I didn’t want to be seen in the self help section because I didn’t want anyone to think I had a problem (say hello to Amazon).

These 10 self-help books are some of the few books that I picked up early on in my journey to discover myself that helped change the course of my life. I hope you pick up at least one of these books to gain a new perspective about yourself and your life.

Reading doesn’t have to be an expensive habit; I go to my local library to get most of my books! So find a local library near you and rent them out free of charge!

HERE IS MY TOP 10 Self-Help List:

1) Tao Te Ching by Lao Tzu


Three things I learned:

  1. 3 things to teach: simplicity, patience & compassion
  2. In thinking, keep it simple. In conflict, be fair & generous. In governing, don’t try to control. In work, do what you enjoy
  3. If you realize that all things change, there is nothing you will try to hold on to. If you are not afraid of dying, there is nothing you cannot achieve

2) Power of your subconscious mindbestselfhelpbookpowerofsubconciouss

Three things I learned:

  1. Without a defined vision of success, you will not be able to point your subconscious mind in the direction you want.
  2. The most critical step in conditioning your subconscious mind for achieving success is to first visualize what you want to achieve in life.
  3. If your vision is generic and unclear, such as “be comfortable” or “have a good life”, then you are doing yourself a great disservice. That’s because your vision, while good natured and genuine, may not be clear, focused, or specific enough to actually program your subconscious mind into taking the right actions.

3) The Art of Happiness by Dalai Lamaartofhappinessselfhelp

Three things I learned:

  1. If we carefully examine any given situation in a very unbiased and honest way, we will realize that to a large extent we are also responsible for the unfolding of events
  2. If one is seeking to build a truly satisfying relationship, the best way of bringing this about is to get to know the deeper nature of the person and relate to her or him on that level, instead of merely on the basis of superficial characteristics
  3. How to defeat day-to-day depression, anxiety, anger, jealousy, or just an ordinary bad mood. He discusses relationships, health, family, work, and spirituality to show us how to ride through life’s obstacles on a deep abiding source of inner peace.

4) Think & Grow Rich by Napolean Hillthinkandgrowrichselfhelpbooks

Three quotes from the book:

  1. The starting point of all achievement is DESIRE. Keep this constantly in mind. Weak desire brings weak results
  2. When defeat comes, accept it as a signal that your plans are not sound, rebuild those plans, and set sail once more toward your coveted goal
  3. Before success comes in any man’s life, he is sure to meet with much temporary defeat, and, perhaps, some failure. When defeat overtakes a man, the easiest and most logical thing to do is to quit. That is exactly what the majority of men do. More than five hundred of the most successful men this country has ever known told the author their greatest success came just one step beyond the point at which defeat had overtaken them

5) The Four Agreements by Don Miguel Ruiz51MfVDOlEkL._SX338_BO1,204,203,200_

The 4 Agreements:

  1. Be impeccable with your word
  2. Don’t take anything personally
  3. Don’t make assumptions
  4. Always do your best

6) The Last Lecture by Randy Pausch51hcvGYnnkL._SX353_BO1,204,203,200_

Three things I learned:

  1. Pausch discusses the importance of childhood dreams and how to go about achieving them as one grows older
  2. We cannot change the cards we are dealt, just how we play the hand
  3. The brick walls are there for a reason. They are there to give us a chance to show how badly we want something. They are there to stop the people who do not want it badly enough.
7) Emotional Wellness by Osho
418B9NRVNKL._SX328_BO1,204,203,200_Three things I learned:

  1. Somebody insults you and you become angry. The person who has insulted you is managing your behavior. Your anger is in their hands; you are behaving like a puppet
  2. Osho explains how the true way of dealing with our emotions, our happiness, hate, love, fear or anger, is to first understand and accept what we feel, let these feelings go through our whole body and mind, becoming part of us
  3. It will help you understand the roots of our emotions, the reasons for feeling how we feel, without giving them the meaning that our culture or society have thought us to, then we can develop the knack of watching those feelings and learning from them

8) The Power of Positive Thinking by Dr. Norman Vincent


Three things I learned:

  1. Don’t take tomorrow to bed with you. Focus on today
  2. Stand up to your obstacles and do something about them. You will find that they haven’t half the strength you think they have
  3. Watch your manner of speech if you wish to develop a peaceful state of mind. Start each day by affirming peaceful, contented and happy attitudes and your days will tend to be pleasant and successful

9) The Traveller’s Gift by Andy Andrews51JMft0PqLL._SX324_BO1,204,203,200_

7 Decisions you must make for success:

  1. The buck stops here
  2. I will seek wisdom
  3. I am a person of action
  4. I have a decided heart
  5. Today I will choose to be happy
  6. I will greet this day with a forgiving spirit
  7. I will persist without exception

10. The Charge by Brendon Burchard514PYMv8VSL._SX331_BO1,204,203,200_

10 Human Drives:

  1. The drive for competence
  2. The drive for congruence
  3. The drive for control
  4. The drive for caring
  5. The drive for connection
  6. The drive for change
  7. The drive for challenge
  8. The drive for creative expression
  9. The drive for contribution
  10. The drive for consciousness

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  • Reply
    June 24, 2016 at 10:15 pm

    Great list Hunar! I am going to put the Art of Happiness on my list. Love that you are pursuing your dreams! You’ve got this – don’t let anything stop you!

  • Reply
    June 25, 2016 at 12:36 am

    I’ve always wanted to gain more insight into how to think more positive. Having this list is great! I definitely am considering trying out the power of positive thinking. Amazon it is!

  • Reply
    Sukhi Gill
    August 11, 2016 at 5:31 pm

    Loved this! So inspiring!

    • Reply
      Hunar Chandhok
      August 18, 2016 at 6:17 pm

      Thank you Sukhi!

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